anyone else get a fuzzy-restless feeling when you need to do something but your brain won’t focus on anything and you’re silently begging yourself to just do one thing but instead you’re scrolling tumblr even though you don’t even want to be … it’s like your head is filled with heavy electric cotton like you’re both uncomfy and unable to stop
This is the best damn description of executive dysfunction I have ever heard
Its no ones fault that im sick and that makes dealing with the anger it gives me harder. It makes dealing w my limitations harder. With having things taken from me harder. Because there is no one to blame, no apology, no perpetrator to the crime, so no way to bring justice and closure.
And its even harder not to blame yourself when theres no one else to blame.
Just so know know this is something people with borderline personality disorder may do and this post is ableist. Sometime the person will accidentally kill themselves trying to get the other person to stay. They have an intense fear of abandonment. The more you know https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=to5qRLRSS7g
as someone with bpd, yes we do have an intense fear of abandonment, but if we do shit like this it is STILL TOXIC and STILL SHITTY. this post is absolutely not ableist. yes, seek help for the person in question immediatley but DON’T let them manipulate you like this. they need help, but you are not responsible for them and if anyone treats you like this (especially repetitively) you are in an abusive relationship. y'all are truly fucked up for making people think that they’re ableist for getting out of a toxic relationship.
I just…also as someone with bpd like… We still know, like… Right from wrong? Yeah, I have an intense fear of abandonment, yeah it is tempting to use self harm to regain that control, yeah I’ve done it when I was younger. Doesn’t make it less manipulative, or abusive. You are still using it as a tactic to try and control another person to the detriment of their health and safety.
Like, those who excuse this and actually defend it are just huge red flags to me.
Cool motive, still abuse.
As someone also with BPD I strongly second this.^^^ Under no circumstance is it ever okay to use self harm as a scare tactic to make someone stay.
